I’ve been meaning to write this for a while, but never actually got around to it! I’m engaged to a man who also happens to be a serious athlete. Some of the things that I’ve had to get used to aren’t a big deal, some are.
- Get used to NOT having weekends. Your mans’ scheduled becomes your schedule. Wanna go out on Saturday night? Can’t… he has an early game on Sunday. You’ll actually find yourself enjoying staying in and going to be early. You might even find yourself reminding him that he needs to sleep.
- If he’s not talking about his teams, something is probably wrong. You will undoubtedly know EVERY name on each of his teams. You’ll probably learn things about these men that you, in any other world, wouldn’t care about. But because there are SOOO many to keep track of, those little tidbits of information prove vital when you remember said guy and catch your man off guard. (Listening is important!!) If your guy stops talking about his teams abruptly, someone is wrong. Yes, men cause just as much drama as women, if not more. Maybe there was a fight within the team; maybe someone quit unexpectedly causing your guy unnecessary stress; either way, you’ll know when he stops talking that someone happened.
- He’ll forget things that are important to you, because they aren’t related to him or his teams. For months, you’ll be talking about YOUR event, because its important to you. You’re training, you’re making plans, you’re excited. He’ll most likely not be there. If he’s not playing a tournament, he’s training. You need to make sure you’re prepared and excited in the things YOU think are important. Because most of the time, you’re on your own.
- Your house will begin to carry an… odor. Even if your guy is meticulous with cleaning up after himself, sweaty man isn’t a smell that just goes away. The car, the bedroom, the home itself will smell of old shoes and sweat (for at least 2-3 days after an event) so much that you can taste it.
- You will become a therapist if his team loses. All though it might not last very long, a big loss can be catastrophic to your man, especially if he knows the other team. He’ll need you to reassure him – it wasn’t his fault that the team fell. He can’t run an entire team, even if that’s what he thinks. If you’re an athlete also, try to give him advice on how to have a better game next time. (Supportive and helpful!)
- Be prepared to have plans cancelled at the last minute. Pick up game? surprise practice? Eh no biggie, you’ll get used to it. Be sure not to plan ANYTHING without being “ok” to do it alone. You will find yourself spending a lot of time with… yourself.
- If he gets hurt, so do you. This is his life and all the sudden he can’t play. His attitude will change, his behaviors will change. He’ll try to do things at home to make up for the lack of sports, but that hurts too. He will gripe and will complain. Do NOT take it personally. He’s bored, he’s angry, he wants to be doing ANYTHING that involves him running around, and he can’t. (small silver lining – you’ll be able to spend time with him without spending time with his team). You’ll also become somewhat of a nurse to your guy… when he’s in pain you can’t stand it, so you’ll try everything in your brain to make the pain stop. Trust me though, he loves when you take care of him.
- He is ALWAYS hungry. Always. He’ll polish off an entire pizza, then look for more. Keep the house stocked at all times so the beast can feed. If he’s not able to feed, you’ll experience something called “HANGER” (he’ll get Hangry). These times are when unnecessary fighting occurs. He burns a lot of calories when he plays, he needs to replace them or he gets grumpy. ALWAYS HAVE FOOD!
- The end of a season is the end of his world (temporarily). He’ll pace the house… not really knowing what to do with himself. He’ll go completely stir crazy and clean the entire house in a day… or channel his inner child, and climb a tree. (yes, there’s a story there…) Makes sense though, all the sudden a HUGE portion of his life is gone. Make the most of this time. He’s yours again! For the brief off season (very brief) make plans, go outside, soak up as much time as you can!
- You find yourself trying to get better at sports. You constantly see your man succeed, you want a bit of that happiness for yourself. Hopefully you’ll already have an athletic outlet, if not, you’ll find one fast. Your man and his abilities on the field will make you want to try to be more successful at whatever you do sports wise. This can be REALLY beneficial because you’re now as busy as he is. (i.e. training runs – those can take HOURS! And you feel amazing afterwards!)
It’s not easy dating a serious athlete, but it can be fun as long as you make it! It’s the beginning of a new season, so I might come back to this frequently. I’m happy to be my guys cheerleader – all day. When his team and he are successful, it makes me so proud. The happiness he has coming away from an excellent game is contagious. Life is what you make it… that goes the same for being in a relationship with an Athlete.